Parent and Fan Expectations

All Fans

    1. Please give plenty of praise and keep any negative comments for yourself, whether you’re talking about your own child or not. Coaches and kids love hearing when parents shout “good effort,” or “you’ll get it next time,” or praise for any decision that kids make on their own.
    2. There MUST not be any negative interaction with the referees or other parents coming from sidelines. If anyone has hard time controlling themselves in this regard, it’s better to stay home. If it still happens, we WILL ask you to stay home. I hope that everyone realizes how traumatic experience it is for a kid when a parent misbehaves on the sideline.

Parents

Coaching from sidelines  (adopted from CRSA parent letter)

  • When parents tell players what to do, kids don’t make their own decisions and often act the opposite of what they learn in training, thus hindering their development.
  • Some examples of coaching and how it actually may be translated:
    -Go get the ball — dive in (wrong).
    -Shoot — don’t look up to see what your options are (wrong).
    -Dribble — keep your head down and run into pressure (wrong).
    -Boot it — don’t be calm under pressure and play kickball (wrong).
    -Pressure – go toward the opponent regardless of what you’re leaving behind (wrong).We teach players to make their own decisions, according to the situation and their abilities at that moment (they may be tired, for example). The best way to do that is to provide some information but not make decisions for them.
  • Examples of instructions:
    -Time – player is getting the ball and has no defenders around
    -Man on – player has a defender right behind him/her
    -Look up – player is dribbling without pressure but keeps the head down. Please give plenty of praise and keep any negative comments for yourself, whether you’re talking about your own child or not. Coaches and kids love hearing when parents shout “good effort,” or “you’ll get it next time,” or praise for any decision that kids make on their own.

From the Linn-Mar Coaching Staff

  1. There MUST not be any negative interaction with the referees or other parents coming from sidelines. If anyone has hard time controlling themselves in this regard, it’s better to stay home. If it still happens, we WILL ask you to stay home. I hope that everyone realizes how traumatic experience it is for a kid when a parent misbehaves on the sideline.
  2. Be a role-model for your children. At LM we expect good sportsmanship. We try and model this and expect for you to do the same.
  3. Let the coaches do their job.  Of course you want the best for your son(s).  The fact is that we evaluate talent everyday and try to put what we feel is the best group on the field at one time.  If we are spending time dealing with parents, we won’t be dealing with the players.
  4. Encourage your son(s) to talk with the coaches if they have questions about playing time or other soccer-related questions.  We know that these things are important to the growth of our players, this is a crucial time for them to begin/continue to fight their own battles.
  5. Encourage your son to be active.  Studies show that being a multi-sport athlete has just as many advantages (if not more) than specializing in one sport.  If they don’t want to be in another sport, encourage them to participate in our off-season/pre-season activities and workouts.
  6. If you want to be involved in the program as more than a spectator, please ask how you can help.  We can always use an extra hand during clinic registrations, videotaping of games, lining up meals for road trips, organizing pre-game meals, etc.  Please do not assume that if you are active and willing to help that your son will get any preferential treatment, or benefit from your willingness to help.
  7. The LM Booster Club is now expecting each team/organization to lend a hand over the course of the year during various events. Please use this opportunity to help out. Look for emails from our Booster Club Parent Reps.